When supporting a family member who is new to recovery, it is important to establish healthy boundaries to ensure their well-being and your own.
At Steps to Peace and Purpose we realize the importance of further education for family members of loved ones in our care. During their stay at in-patient treatment, most clients begin family therapy and we see the importance of continuing that vital component, especially considering the affect addiction has on interpersonal relationships.
Here are some healthy boundaries you could use with your loved one
Encourage personal responsibility: Encourage your family member to take responsibility for their own recovery journey. Avoid enabling behaviors or taking on their responsibilities.
Respect their privacy: Allow your family member to have their own space and privacy. Avoid prying into their personal matters or attending support group meetings unless invited.
Set clear expectations: Communicate your expectations regarding their recovery, such as attending therapy sessions, support group meetings, or adhering to a treatment plan. Be clear about what behavior is acceptable and what is not.
Avoid enabling behaviors: Refrain from providing financial support that may be misused for substances or enabling their addictive behaviors. Instead, offer support in non-monetary ways, such as emotional support or helping them find employment.
Practice self-care: Prioritize your own well-being by setting aside time for self-care activities. This will help you maintain your own mental and emotional health while supporting your family member.
Communicate openly and honestly: Establish open and honest communication with your family member. Encourage them to share their feelings and concerns, and express your own thoughts and boundaries without judgment.
Educate yourself: Learn about addiction and recovery to better understand what your family member is going through. This knowledge will help you provide appropriate support and set realistic boundaries.
Seek professional help: If necessary, involve professionals such as therapists, counselors, or intervention specialists to guide you and your family member through the recovery process.
Remember, boundaries should be flexible and adaptable based on the specific needs and circumstances of your family member. Regularly reassess and adjust them as necessary to ensure the best support for their recovery.